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BEWILDER

You were made by earth, from earth, for earth

Find out what you are here to be .

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Conventional knowledge is death to our souls and it is not really ours...we must become ignorant to what we have been taught and become, instead, bewildered.

Rumi

BELL SELKIE LOVELOCK

Nature-based Human Development Mentor

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I have been rooting into Cymru for 27 years, rewilding alongside 40 acres of ex-chemical dairy land in a multi-species co-creation called Ddaear Ydym Ni ! We are Earth ! 

Courting the edge where the worlds meet, I resecrate (restore to sacredness those who have been desecrated) land, people, rivers, trees , practices of living, language... Resecrating is the part of a new indigeny and I've been weaving together hearth and soul for 25 years, with much practical experience of creating strong physical, emotional and cultural " baskets" in which folks can unravel in order to tend to and heal and / or make sacred the wounding that is within them and around them. 

 

My work with individuals and groups, Bewilder, is inspired by Bill Plotkin and Animas Valley Institute with whom I'm a member of the guild of Wild Mind guides and a trainer for the Wild Mind training program. I also co-conspire with Starter Culture , an initiative dedicated to supporting inner-led change in service of outer ecological and social change. I also lean into 18 years experience of counselling and life coaching, of home-educating six children, co-founding and living in housing co-operatives and an organic farm co-operative, of bee-keeping and growing food,  non-violent direct activism for earth, and the casting of wordspells as a poet/writer. 

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WHAT I OFFER

  • one-to-one mentoring ( in person or online)

  • group offerings of deep nature connection 

  • mistletoe plantings

  • supervision support for alternative therapists

  • one planet poetry

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ONE-TO-ONE MENTORING

 

Deepen into your belonging and discover what earth made you to be ...connect to yourself, other people and the other than human world around you... working with a nature as mirror and guide

Sessions either in person or online/telephone. Wild Mind guide and trainer with Animas Valley Institute , accredited member of BACP and accredited NCFE Lifecoach.

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GROUP OFFERINGS

These range from day-long immersions and nature connection circles (in person or online) to collaborations with others such as vision quests and intensive programmes  as well as hosting Animas Valley Institute programmes in UK.

Currently:

Winter's Dreaming - Deepening into Earth's Dream

place: Bannau Brycheinniog, Cymru ( Brecon Beacons, Wales) 

date: January 12-15th 2024                price: £450-550

with Rebecca Joy Card 

Winter in the Northern Hemisphere is the time to enter the earth’s, and our, dreaming. Our bodies, along with the body of the earth, need rest, hibernation, slowing down in order to be with the potency of our dreams for it is from them that the rest of our lives can be shaped. How we choose to show up, what we choose to respond to, the parts that hold us back from living the fullest version of ourselves ~ are all offered to us by Mystery through the underworld of our psyches, the unconscious realm, at night when we sleep, and also in our waking dreams.

You are warmly invited to join us for an intimate soul gathering in the depths of winter to explore our individual and collective dreams, both sleeping and waking. There will be invitations to work with dream encounters through enactment, time with the land and the other-than-humans of Bannau Brycheinniog , as well as hearthside councils, movement, art and, that's right, rest.

 

Betwixt - Exploring the Thresholds between the Worlds

March 15th -18th 2024  

Venue : Brecon Beacons, Cymru (  UK )     Price : tbc

In a time of increasing polarity and disconnection this is an invitation to those who wish to linger in-between long enough to learn what it is to be at the threshold, the place of not knowing, the liminal and the mysterious. To stay long enough to become undone, to unravel from who we thought we were and become something else, perhaps the threshold itself. 

An equinox weekend March in Cymru co -guided with Rebecca Joy Card of Nature Wisdom

Solo Quest  

May 11-21st  2024

 place : Dartmoor  UK   with Rebecca Joy Card

price : TBC

Also known as a Vision Quest, this ancient ceremony with the land, with yourself and with Mystery offers a potential rite of initiation, a journey to the underworld to uncover what is uniquely yours as a gift to yourself and to the earth community. This deep process is in itself an offering to Life.

Through fasting, self generated ceremony and direct contact with the other-than-human world, including the wild elements, lies the opportunity for healing, maturation and deeper meaning. 

This ceremony is held as a death process ~ a soul descent that creates the conditions for the initiate to die to the familiar ways of inhabiting the world and to be ‘undone’ in a held, safe and potent way that supports you to find ‘what is hidden as a gift to others’.

Are you feeling called to this marking ceremony?  What are you ready to say ‘yes’ to?

Please note an application process in necessary and note that there is now a tiered exchange system.

Wild Death - Placing  Death at the centre of a whole life 

date : 12th - 16th Sept 2024          Place: Dartmoor, UK           Price: tbc

   

Co-guided by Rebecca Joy Card in collaboration with Nature Wisdom “…It’s very strange where you come from…it seems to me...that everybody wakes up expecting to live.”  Words spoken by Martine Prechtel, paraphrased by Stephen Jenkinson in Diewise.  We are living in uncertain times, yet one thing is certain ~ each of us will die. Indeed, as a species along with so many other beings, we may well be facing our collective death.  How shall we choose to do this? 

We invite you to join us for 5 days of embodied nature-based practices. In particular, the Wild Mind map developed by Bill Plotkin, deep imagination, wild creativity and ceremony held by the land as we turn to look at our lives through the natural lens of death. By choosing this intimacy with the cycles of life, death and rebirth we can live fully guided not by fear but by earth’s vision.

Wild Mind Intensive , Animas Valley Institute

date , venue and time to be conformed 

 Guides:  Sara Macfarland and Bell Selkie Lovelock

                       scholarships available 

“Based on Bill Plotkin’s book, Wild Mind: A Field Guide to the Human Psyche, this 5-day intensive is an experiential exploration of our human psyches as unique expressions of the universal forces and patterns of nature.

Our wild minds possess astonishing resources, untapped potentials and depths that we might not even know exist until we discover how to access them, cultivate their powers, and eventually integrate them into our everyday lives. In this intensive, we’ll access these depths and potentials and also the four sets of fragmented or wounded subpersonalities that form during childhood.

Discover:

  • how to recognize and consciously cultivate the four facets of the Self — your innate human wholeness ; how to identify the subpersonalities that supported you in childhood and adolescence to adapt to the challenges of family and social life, but ultimately became barriers to your full and authentic humanity

  • practices and guidelines for cultivating relationships between the Self and your subpersonalities, enabling you to heal your subpersonalities, discover their gifts, and foster Self-actualization

  • how each facet of the Self provides essential resources for the underworld journey (the descent to soul), its radical transformation of personal identity, and for living as a visionary artisan of cultural evolution.”

Befriending Darkness - Join others for group counsel and a one night solo vigil in private woodland, to explore darkness within and around. Nr Narberth, Cymru

dates to be confirmed

 

Ynys Enlli / Bardsey Island Retreat - Cymru /Wales

Sept 28th -5th Oct 24

There is an island off the west coast of Cymru that is known as island of tides. On this rock, sea prevails and you are always in the sound, smell and sight of water. It’s called a holy island – the island of 20,000 saints and is a pilgrimage destination. Before christianity it is said that it is the burial place of Myrddin/ Merlin. It’s a place to get whole. 

This is a retreat , mostly silent and intended to largely a solo time out of conversation with humans and with other-than-humans. There is no electricity in the house we are staying in and virtually no reception on Enlli so it’s a good place to stop, tech detox and to gather yourself in at this time of harvest. There is very little to do except be here. Be weathered, be enchanted, be in the song of seals as they nurse their pups on the beaches, be under the spell of fire that is the heat for Garreg Fawr, the house we'd stay in.

 

You are invited to come and to be as present to this place as you can be – this isn’t just an opportunity for you to take space and time for yourself, but also a time to offer your full attention to a place and to listen in deeply to the conversation of rock, water, seal, chough and wind and willows

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MISTLETOE PLANTING

I have been planting mistletoe as a practice of connection for over 20 years. Mistletoe was the plant of peace and fertility for my UK ancestors  and I plant it with the intention of bringing both qualities. I offer a 30 seed mistletoe planting service in Carmarthenshire, Pembrokeshire and Ceredigion which can be purchased as Valentine/ Yuletide gifts with a mistletoe themed gift card that is exchanged for a March planting . I also run workshops on how to plant your own mistletoe. Contact me for details.

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